When we walk to the edge of all the light we have
And take that step into the darkness of the unknown,
We believe that one of two things will happen;
There will be something solid for us
To stand on
Or, we will be taught how to fly.
--Patrick Overton, The Leaning Tree
As a licensed psychologist and mother of a son, who committed suicide . . . I am committed to providing immediate, compassionate, research-based suicide prevention and depression help. I am not afraid or uncomfortable talking or asking about suicide or suicidal ideation (thinking about suicide). There is a common misconception that if an individual is thinking about hurting himself that discussing it will increase the chances of carrying out a suicide. I have held the hands of hundreds of patients with suicidal ideation, who are still alive today. We have gently faced their darkness together and provided immediate and lasting help for depression and hope.
Lasting help has many facets. One example is the incorporation of exercise as part of a holistic treatment plan. Exercise has been found to play a critical role on the path back to wellness. It can ease the symptoms of depression and anxiety by stimulating the release of brain chemicals often found to be in low supply. I work closely with RPM (Results. Performance. Mind. in Birmingham), to develop exercise programs tailored to help you and/or your loved one increase energy levels, strengthen the mind, and ultimately bring joy back into your life.
According to the American Association of Suicidiology (2011):
- Males complete suicide 3.85 times more often than females, though females attempt suicide three times more often than males.
- Older people (65+) have an average of 12 attempts before they suicide, while younger people have more success in their attempts.
- Males use firearms more often than females.
- The most common method among females is poisoning.
- Studies show that more than 90% of people, who died by suicide, had at least one mental disorder.
- Each suicide leaves 6-10 survivors, who are personally affected.
I also provide suicide help for parents and siblings of children, who have committed suicide. I help find the courage to face the searing pain. I help find the strength to taste joy again . . . although it will always be bittersweet. I help to get on with life . . . not get over the loss. Together in time we move from a place of despair to a place of peace.
Sadly, I know that there is no greater sorrow for a mother than losing her child. Yet, in time your story of this horrific journey can be can be rewritten. Perhaps you will help others with suicide prevention. Perhaps you will write a book, paint a mural, or take long walks. Eventually my excruciating struggle gave way to acceptance and enlightenment. I went back to graduate school to earn a doctoral degree in clinical psychology to provide depression help, treat suicidal ideation and suicide prevention.
I have journeyed through the tunnel of unspeakable pain and emerged whole. Whether you are wrestling with suicidal ideation, need help for depression, or have lost a friend or family member to suicide . . . I can help.
*If you or a loved one is in immediate danger of self-harm please call Common Ground 24-hour hotline (1-800-231-1127), National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255), 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
(248) 817-8325 or firstname.lastname@example.org